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« If you saw the list of names, it would surprise you a great deal, » says Feld. « They are very successful people, very visible, very charismatic–yet they’ve struggled with this silently. There’s a sense that they can’t talk about it, that it’s a weakness or a shame or something. They feel like they’re hiding, which makes the whole thing worse. »
« It’s like a man riding a lion. People think, ‘This guy’s brave.’ And he’s thinking, ‘How the hell did I get on a lion, and how do I keep from getting eaten? »
« Build a life centered on the belief that self-worth is not the same as net worth, » says Freeman. « Other dimensions of your life should be part of your identity. » Whether you’re raising a family, sitting on the board of a local charity, building model rockets in the backyard, or going swing dancing on weekends, it’s important to feel successful in areas unrelated to work.
The ability to reframe failure and loss can also help leaders maintain good mental health. « Instead of telling yourself, ‘I failed, the business failed, I’m a loser,’ » says Freeman, « look at the data from a different perspective: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Life is a constant process of trial and error. Don’t exaggerate the experience. »